“Psychotherapy isn’t what you think. It isn’t a healing of an illness. It isn’t guidance from a wise counselor. It isn’t the mutual sharing of good friends. It isn’t learning esoteric knowledge. It isn’t being shown the error of one’s ways. It isn’t finding a new religion. Psychotherapy isn’t what you think.
Psychotherapy is not what you think. It surprises many people because it is not primarily about your childhood … or about what has hurt or traumatized you … or about the germs in your body … or about destructive habits you’ve acquired … or about negative attitudes you carry … .
Psychotherapy is not what you think. It is about how you think. It calls attention to unrecognized assumptions in how you think. It makes a distinction between what you think about and how you do that thinking. It is less concerned with looking for causes to explain what you do and more concerned with discovering patterns in the meanings you make of what you’re doing.
Psychotherapy is about how you think. It is about how you live with your emotions. It is about the perspectives you bring to relating with the people who matter to you. It is about what you aspire to in your life and how you may unwittingly make it harder for yourself to reach those goals. It is about being helped to see that the change you seek is already latent within you. It is coming to recognize and appreciate the spark of something eternal that is your core.
Psychotherapy is not what you think; it is about how you live with yourself right now.”
- James Bugental, Psychotherapy is Not What You Think